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Q: Dear Muslim Girl, please no judgement on this, but I really want to get my lips done. I’m really self-conscious about them, and I know it’s kind of haram, but I want to get them so badly. I’ve been reading into it, and I’m not sure it’s as haram as people think…should I do it? It’s not to please others, just something I genuinely want to do.
A: “I don’t think getting fillers is actually haram! Since it’s temporary, many schools of thought actually believe it is permissible, just like waxing. However, I think you should make sure you’re doing it for the right reasons. I’ve heard so many stories about girls who start with lip fillers and end up changing so much more about them, and natural beauty is what is truly beautiful, so don’t forget that! I’ve also heard getting fillers ends up damaging your lips, as the more filler you add the more difficult it is to dissolve eventually. Filler also can travel to other parts of your face! I recommend doing lots of research! But whatever makes you happy, and whatever makes Allah happy is the right decision. Hope this helped.”
– Maryam Tahir, 17, Canada.
A: “To the lip filler sister: Allah knows best. From a worldly perspective, always remember to ask yourself ‘who is profiting off my insecurity?’ I don’t know how old you are, but as a mom-friend type of sister, I’d advise you to wait a little. Self-acceptance grows as you get older. So what if your lips aren’t as pouty? Maybe read up a little about western beauty ideals and get angry. Should you still decide to get fillers, no judgment! All the best for you. ♥️”
– Sabina, 28, Germany.
A: “Our body is a temporary temple for our soul. Dear beautiful, beautiful Muslim woman, you are beautiful and worthy. Firstly, please know that. Now it’s important to know that you have the will to make your own choices and only you and you alone can tell yourself what to do with your body. Not others, nor society’s pressure can decide that for you. Nothing in life is permanent, not even fillers, which in this case are decorations to make your temple ‘more’ pretty, or rather the same level of pretty as the other temples. I think it’s completely your decision but it’s important to be conscious in that decision and ask yourself whether you are getting the fillers because you genuinely want them and feel you need them, or because you want them because others have them too and it’s a trend? Be conscious of the kind of consumer you are!”
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A: “I don’t think it’s haram. You are not harming anyone by doing your lips, and people have to leave others alone, and discuss more important things than just a lip job. (racism, women rights).”
– Fatima Azahràa El-Zein, 16, Lebanon.
I feel what she is saying. And everyone should perform their own ijtihad and come to their own conclusions about what is haram or halal.
A: “Hi b!! I understand completely how you feel. I used to hate my nose because I think it’s gigantic and I always wanted to get my boobs done. After I heard that changing your body is haram, I too searched for answers. I too found that it is not as haram as people think, but alas, I realized that WE want it to be not haram. Allah has made a clear decision that it is haram to change who you are. I hope you do more of your prayers, and pray to Allah that your heart can love you as Allah loves your soul and body the perfect way you are.”
-Aisya, 18, Indonesia.
A: “I feel what she is saying. And everyone should perform their own ijtihad and come to their own conclusions about what is haram or halal. But beyond Islam, I want her to think about why she feels the need to undergo something slightly invasive and possibly dangerous to change the way Allah made her. This is different from getting your brows waxed, it can cause infections and scarring. Also I’ve never seen a filled lip that didn’t look fake AF lol.”
– Aida, 28, Kentucky.
A: “You should do what you think is best for you, but understand that God has made you perfect the way you are, and cosmetically altering your face won’t help you be less self conscious about yourself. Own your features, respect and care for them, and be more confidant with who you are and how you look by surrounding yourself with positive thoughts and influences.”
– Rezwana Sarder, 15, New Jersey.
I think that trends like having big lips come and go. Everyone is different with their own unique features and it’s important to remember that even though you might not have the exact features of that are currently ‘ideal’, you are still beautiful.
A: “Salaams✨ I think that trends like having big lips come and go. Everyone is different with their own unique features and it’s important to remember that even though you might not have the exact features of that are currently ‘ideal’, you are still beautiful. Changing something about yourself that you don’t like won’t make you happier, because once you ‘fix’ one thing, you will be tempted to ‘fix’ others. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, appreciate what you do. Self-love and acceptance over unattainable and unrealistic standards of beauty.”
– Alaika Khan, 19, South Africa.
A: “Before considering lip fillers, have you tried other options? Like lip plumping masks and creams, or over-lining lips. Also, getting lip fillers will change you. It’s a drastic change, so please consider all other options before lip fillers.”
– Sosan Mohammad, 19, San Diego, California.
A: “Allah has made you the way you are, which is perfect. And sometimes that’s easier said if you’re not in that situation. But are you willing to risk Jannah for lip fillers? This life is only temporary, and if you do get your lips done (which is up to you if you really want to, I have no right to shame you since I’m just a human being with flaws), I can assure you that you will find another part of your body that you will not be happy with.”
– Fatou, 21, Canada.