These Women Used #DearSister to Show Men’s Hypocrisy in the Ummah

Egyptian-American writer and journalist Mona Eltahawy is used to people disagreeing with her. On March 5, she tweeted out her frustration, half in jest, after receiving an email from a stranger who took the time to tell the journalist that he didn’t agree with her views. Using the hashtag #DearSister, Eltahawy made it clear that as a Muslim woman she had no time for anyone’s lectures, whether or not they’re a stranger.

Thousands of women all over the globe quickly took it upon themselves to voice their own frustrations with men who take the time to criticize women on their appearance and behavior when they themselves make questionable decisions.

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1. This #DearSister tweet that shows an entitled patriarchy and Islam can’t go hand in hand.

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2. This truth ??

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3. And this tweet that exposed just one of the many contradictions that are a direct result of backwards thinking.

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4. This hypocrisy.

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5. This head-scratcher

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6. And more hypocrisy…

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7. And this man who feared for his life after reading the tweets on the hashtag and felt he should speak on behalf of his brothers.

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It should be made clear that the hashtag was not an opportunity for Muslim women to bash their male counterparts. Instead, women took this chance to expose the men whom we’ve all encountered in our lives. These men continuously find it necessary to comment on how a woman chooses to dress or the state of her hijab.

They try to shame Muslim women who are outspoken leaders and advocates, claiming that their actions and behaviors are “unIslamic.” These men are in fact not inspired by Islam at all, but by ignorance and backward cultural norms and practices, as well as their own sense of entitlement and colossal ego.

If they were truly cared about faith, they would hold women in high regard and hold their tongues before commenting on things that, frankly, are none of their business.