It’s very rare to find an everlasting love so sweet and beautiful in the culture and space we live in. Many of us wish for a romance that will keep us breathless and content for the rest of our lives. And by the mercy and grace of Allah (SWT,) we will have that one day….
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Meet Dr. Aneesah Nadir, Author of “Before the Nikah”
Recently, Dr. Aneesah Nadir released a book on marriage preparation that is indispensable for single Muslims or even friends of single Muslims. Dr. Aneesah is a pioneer in the field of Muslim mental health. She taught social work at the university level for decades, long before psychology became a hot topic among Muslims. Her work has…
This Is What You Absolutely Need to Know Before You Get Married
Marriage is a time that many look forward to. Often, couples will plan everything to the last detail: invitations, music playlists, seating arrangements, food menus, floral arrangements, and every other conceivable detail. However, sometimes despite the best of foresight and planning, one of the most important aspects of the union is overlooked: the marriage contract,…
A Poem About Marriage: The New Bride
Dolkis, ghajaras, yellow and pink dust in the air, Laughter of mothers and aunts, cousins and nieces. A glimpse of happiness, Turns to sudden fears of the unknown. Decorated eyes looking up in desperation, The green glitter is dim but still shines. Torn and beaten with age, you can still make out…
This Is Why Marriage Is a Leap of Faith
It’s 2017, and my cousin recently got engaged. Beaming, she shows me the gifts she received from the groom’s side of the family at the engagement ceremony: sky-high stilettos, a Western-style diamond pendant and matching earrings, a Ted Baker makeup bag — exotic luxuries for a young girl raised in a mid-size city in north…
Why I’ve Been Praying in My Boyfriend’s Bedroom
As my boyfriend went to the bathroom to brush his teeth and get ready for the night, I quickly pulled a hoodie over my bare head and began to pray as fast as I could. With each prostration, I found myself begging for forgiveness. I hated the days he would come back faster than I…
This Is For Anyone Who’s Being Fat Shamed Right Now
It’s a funny thing. With social distancing abound, I’m seeing an intense influx of accounts where young women have been bullied and abused by their near and “dear” over their weight. Truly, the volume has been overwhelming. I’m not here to offer any solutions. God knows, I’m not qualified to do so. But I do…
I Refuse to Sacrifice My Happiness for Marriage
I can only speak for myself when I say that the topic of marriage was a constant in my household growing up. I remember being 11-years-old when my cousin was getting married. I overheard a conversation amongst grown-ups discussing who was getting married next. It’s weird to hear your mother saying she wanted to get…
A Letter To My Mom, From Her Independent Daughter
Dear Mom, There is something that I have been meaning to tell you, and here it goes… I understand that we play an important role in each other’s lives, but I feel I can’t be as up front with you about my feelings as you are with me, sometimes. I feel that just because you…
Mama, Thank You for Protecting Me the Only Way You Knew How
Trigger warning: This story contains references and descriptions of domestic violence. I remember the moment I found out about my mom’s previous marriage before my biological father. I had just been cheated on by my boyfriend at the time, and she sat me down on our couch and told me about her first arranged marriage…
#MGAnon: Can We Talk About Sex, Please?
Welcome to #MuslimGirlAnon, your one-stop spot for all the advice you could need! Every week, we crowd-source the very best advice our #MGClique has to offer about issues plaguing our girl gang. Need some advice? Write to editorial@muslim-girl-2021-production.mystagingwebsite.com, and we may just feature you! Q: “Dear Muslim Girl, I need your help! I don’t want…
Can We Accept That Marriage Is More Than a Shield Against Social Criticism?
Marriage, in the correct context, can be an important social construction that brings prosperity and stability to individuals in order to secure the foundation of a community, and the way Islam gives so much importance to it is great proof of its value. However, for women nowadays, the act of getting married is seen as…
#MGAnon: Why Won’t He Commit?
Welcome to #MuslimGirlAnon, your one-stop spot for all the advice you could need! Every week, we crowd-source the very best advice our #MGClique has to offer about issues plaguing our girl gang. Need some advice? Write to editorial@muslim-girl-2021-production.mystagingwebsite.com, and we may just feature you! Q: “The guy that I’m interested in isn’t making any serious…
#MGAnon: I Wasn’t Made for Marriage
Welcome to #MuslimGirlAnon, your one-stop spot for all the advice you could need! Every week, we crowd-source the very best advice our #MGClique has to offer about issues plaguing our girl gang. Need some advice? Write to editorial@muslim-girl-2021-production.mystagingwebsite.com, and we may just feature you! Q: “I am so fed up of all this marriage talk!…
8 Lessons My Husband and I Learned About Ourselves After Traveling Solo
Recently, my husband and I went on separate trips. In some cultures, this may not be a big deal, but in others, it really is. Guess which culture I belong to. As a married couple, people do expect us to do things together all the time, but these separate trips shattered that particular societal norm….