Language isn't a barrier
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Language Isn’t a Barrier When Love Is Present

“What about kids? Won’t they be confused?” I’ve heard this question various times when I was dating someone outside of my born religion. And my answer was always “No.” 

Yes, their cultures were different. He spoke Turkish and English, and she, English. They were raised differently — but also the same.

I didn’t need to elaborate on my answer because I knew that love conquers all. I knew that if I brought a child into this world with the man I loved, then my speaking English with only a selected few words of Arabic and Urdu under my belt, and him speaking three languages, that child would not be confused — but blessed. 

A perfect example is my beautiful cousin. She was born and raised in the United States. She always found dating exhausting until she met Oz. Oz was tall, kind, handsome, and had the family morals she craved.

He was from Turkey, and was here in the U.S. for a while, allowing them to get to know each other better. My cousin never smiled so much in the years I’ve known her until Oz came into the picture. She met her other half, and she knew it from day one. 

Language is not a barrier. […] He is not confused; he is blessed to know more than one culture.

Yes, their cultures were different. He spoke Turkish and English, and she, English. They were raised differently — but also the same; both families wanted the best for their child, both families wanted them happy, and both families knew that any cultural differences could be blended.

Months later, I attended a beautiful outdoor wedding with my cousin beaming from ear to ear. Oz’s family watching on from Turkey, smiling as big as the happy couple, wishing that they too were able to be physically present. Cultural differences were not noticed that day. In fact, all I saw was the happiness of two people who found their person.

The wedding was an amazing mixture of both their personalities. Turkish-themed gifts were given as party favors, and the background was set with stunning decorative flowered birdcages, flowers, and plants. 

Whatever cultural differences or issues they may have come across in their marriage, they did it with ease, because every time I saw them they were happy. She visited Turkey with Oz and immersed herself in his culture, learning as much as she could and spending time with his side of the family, which she adored. 

As long as the child is raised with love, taught to love Allah, and be his or her best self, then the rest will fall into place. 

A few years later, a beautiful Muslim baby boy was born. Oz’s mom was able to visit and stay in the states for a while to bond with her grandson, and help my cousin and Oz in any way necessary.

Even though Oz’s mom spoke Turkish only, it didn’t matter. She and my family got along famously and the language barrier went unnoticed. She was simply a wonderful lady. 

Language is not a barrier. That little baby is now three years old. He understands both English and Turkish and speaks both. He is not confused; he is blessed to know more than one culture; he is well-traveled at the age of three as well, with visiting Turkey and enjoying foods no other 3-year-old would even look at.

He is being brought up with an open mind and an open heart. So, as they say, “Won’t your child be confused?” The answer is still “No.”

No one has to raise the perfect child, please others to survive this stressful world, or be like everyone else.

As long as the child is raised with love, taught to love Allah, and be his or her best self, then the rest will fall into place. 

No child will be confused when raised by two loving parents.