By I’m sorry, but why does this even matter?
All my life, I have always heard this constant battle being spoken among religious gatherings, classrooms, and social hangouts. The distinction between hijabis (those who wear the headscarf) and non-hijabis (those who do not) was always brought up and viewed as a topic of discussion. Why though, was what I wanted to know. Why did women (and even worse, men who knew nothing about the hijab in the first place) feel the need to debate if hijabis were “better” than non-hijabis? What right did they have to sip coffee, cross their legs, and nod in agreement to those that bashed out non-hijabi women? Was it because they felt they were better? Wiser? More religious? Could one piece of cloth really give that much power?
I remember once it went to the point when people would actually consider “not allowing girls showing their hair” on a poster representing the religion of Islam. I found myself disgusted, despite being a woman who covered. The religion of Islam did not consist of women and men completely identical and clones of one another. There were men with beards, men without beards, women with hijabs, women without hijabs. There were people with different personalities, different tastes, opinions, beliefs, values, and morals. You couldn’t just blur the lines of actual people and present a single body of “religion”. It just didn’t work that way. And it shouldn’t ever have to.
Because the truth is, the hijab is not a measure of a woman’s religiousness or piety. A woman could choose not to cover and be higher in God’s eyes. That is not up to another human being. Because what do we all know anyway? How do I, for example, know that the girl praying next to me in prayer does not get up every night while I am sleeping? The answer is that I don’t.
Therefore, it is not up to me to stand on the side just because I have wrapped and pinned a cloth to my head and point across the room to the girls who have let their hair down. One person has no right to judge another. This ideology does not change given a hijabi woman and a non-hijabi woman. The same rules apply.
And you know what? None of it should matter anyway. The acts of another Muslim or Muslimah is none of our business. The choice of a hijabi or a non-hijabi, likewise, should not be a topic we feel needs to be discussed. That connection exists between a woman and God, not a woman and the entire Muslim population. Our deeds are our own, and we alone are responsible for them.
Remember, hijab is not a certificate to heaven. Rather, it is our actions that will take us anywhere. So the next time you feel the need to declare the wrongdoing of another Muslim, think twice. We all sin differently. May God forgive all of us and give us the guidance to walk on the right path. Ameen.
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thanks for bringing up the topic!
i totally agree…there are so many non hijabi’s i’ve met in my life so far who are more religious, and practice islam the way anyone should.its not like they are never going to wear the hijab,when the time is right they will inshallah 🙂 thanks for sharing this post..and please check my new blog:misshijabigirl.blogspot.com
Hi. In my opinion you are right, but many Muslims think that “hijabi girl” is better than “non-hijabi girls”. Why? I think we can’t judge people by how they are dressed. Most important is what we have in our hearts. Only God knows that and only God can judge us.
Greetings from PL!
I am not one of them and I think you need to stop mingling with these type of judgemental people
Assalamualaikum. Its very true what you said. but it is your perspective.
Think from this side now.what is the centre of attraction for men. its is the face. All the FORBIDDEN ACTS START WHEN A MAN IS ATTRACTED TO A WOMEN. It starts with attraction , then love and goes on. then they indulge in haram doing.
Now you would say i wont reply to him . I am pure in myself and stuff. But this will start making him restless. This leads to things called rapes and other attrocities on woman. To get his satisfaction he will do all the HARAM things. Meaning indirectly you are the reason for initiating his desires and indulging him in wrong doings. if girls really want to show themselves do it at your home , or restricted places for girls or parties of girls and places where men are not allowed. otherwise your intentions itself are bad if you say I WANNA SHOW MYSELF. REMEMBER THE PLACES WHERE ATTROCITIES ON WOMEN ARE LEAST ARE PLACES WHICH HAVE ISLAMIC RULES. THIS IS BECAUSE OF HIJAB AND STRONG ISLAMIC RULES. ISLAM IS SUBMISSION OF ONES WILL TO ALLAH. I WISH TO DRINK , DANCE , HAVE AFFAIRS, BUT I HAVE SUBMITTED ALL THESE WILLS AND DESIRES FOR PLEASING ALLAH
HOPING ALLAH WILL GIVE ME MILLION (INFINITY) TIMES BETTER THAN THIS WORLD HAS TO OFFER ME. THIS IS ISLAM. SAHABA USE TO DRINK PURE ALCOHOL . AND YOU KNOW DRINKING IS A HABIT WHICH CANNOT BE LEFT EASILY. BUT WHEN ALLAH PROHIBITED HIM IT TOOK SCONDS FOR SAHABA TO BREAK AND THROW AWAY ALL THE BOTTLES. EVEN ONE WHO HAD DRANK IT VOMITED IT . THATS SUBMISSION . I KNOW YOU ALL ARE PURE . BUT THE WORLD ISNT. EVERY MUSLIM GIRL IS VERY BEAUTIFUL AND ISLAM MAKES HER MORE BEAUTIFUL. IF THE INTENTION IS THAT I USE HIJAB SO THAT SOMEBODY DOES NOT INDULGES IN BAD THINGS SEEING YOU, YOU WILL GET DOUBLE REWARD INSHAALLAH. AND ABOVE THAT YOU YOURSELF WILL BE PROTECTED.THINK ABOUT IT MY SISTER.
MAY ALLAH GIVE ALL MY SISTERS TO STRENGTH TO WEAR HIJAB. ALLAH YAHDEENA .
WA JAZAKALLAH U KHAIRA,….
I wrote this long winded argument about the comment above, but then half way through the essay decided to ask a simpler question.
How many Muslim women agree with the thoughts above? Isn’t this mentality a bit extremist, and, forgive me for saying, primitive? This is not the true reason women wear the hijab, correct?
Because when my friend explained Islam to me (or at least attempted to; it appears we will now see how much I truly understood), he stated different reasons for wearing the hijab, reasons which are much more beautiful and respectable in nature. (They were related to a woman simply retaining her modesty (this is an overly simplified version which I will elaborate if needed)). Even the entire article in this blog, I believe, disagrees with the comment.
I totally respect Islam and like to think of myself as an open-minded person 🙂 I would really like to hear from Muslim women, stating whether they agree or disagree, or whether I am looking at it in too much of a black/white perspective and am not seeing the gray.
If others agree with the comment above, then I will explain my reasons for feeling this way, and will eagerly await any replies to clear up my misconceptions.
I guess I ended up writing an essay anyways. Whoops! 🙂
Never heard a bigger load of bull crap than what was mentioned above.
Basically u just stated that not wearing the Hijabi, is reason enough and justifies muslim men to resort to all sort of haram things against women?!
Are you instincts that of dog, that you can’t keep in your pants, that you are actually justifying rape on the fact that a woman not wearing a Hijabi is asking to be raped?!
Please explain to me why is it muslim women still commit rape on women who infact where Burqa fully clothed head to toe. Why is it that they rape babies!?
The fact irrespective of what one wears or doesn’t wear, such crimes are committed only by EVIL people, inhumane people, people with no soul or heart.
Inshallah, may you get f**ked by your own morals (pardon my french, i have had my share of misguided religious pricks/bigots)
Easy on language girl, but as a muslim male, I do understand why the up above is a pile of garbage.
Smarty, the man who will do the bad stuff is the one who will get the sins not the girl because god will not take her to hell if her intention was not to sexually arouse him and make him do these things and also it doesn’t seem logical that men will do this in our recent time and another important point is if a woman has to cover her hair then a man also has to cover his face and hair if they make him attractive maybe he must stop exercising to not have a six pack and not attract girls you know that if a guy is attractive a girl might also get into forbidden acts so i prefer you don’t assume these weird assumptions let us assume a girl doesn’t wear hijab and wears a skirt and at home this girl prays more than hijab wearing girls and thanks god for his blessings asks for his forgiveness and treats her parents kindly and gives money to the poor will god ignore all these deeds, ignore what is in her heart and burn her in (HELL) just for simply wearing a skirt and i want to tell you something else it has not been mentioned once in the holy Quran that a woman must cover her hair but only her private parts and bosoms meaning dress modestly and the Hadith saying that when a girl hits puberty she must only show hands and face is proven to be a weak Hadith what we can conclude is that islam encourages women to be modest in dress so that they get respect
There might be mistakes in this but you’d get the idea…
One day Rasool Allah (pbuh) was walking with his cousin (I think) and they saw a beautiful woman. His cousin couldn’t take his eyes away from how tempting and pretty she was. Rasool Allah (pbuh) noticed and turns his cousin’s head away multiple times.
See the thing is, Prophet Muhammad could have told her to cover up, but he didn’t. He averted his cousin’s eyes.
But at the same time it doesn’t mean women should be wearing tempting clothes, but also they shouldn’t be wearing hijab to avert men’s attention, they should wear hijab to represent their faith in their religion.
I, myself, don’t wear the hijab because even though I have complete faith and follow Islam as I should, the hijab I think is 1 step above my…let’s say maturity. It’s quite complicated.
But I wouldn’t wear hijab to make sure a guy doesn’t ‘rape’ me. That would surely be his fault, he should be able to control himself. I would wear hijab when I 100% in my heart feel comfortable with it.
Your thinking is a part of rape culture. And I have a question for you. How come women who wear niqab are raped in Saudia Arabia, Afghanistan, and Pakistan, etc.? The men in those countries respect women even less than they do in “Western” countries despite the fact that they are all covered.
Also, in the Hadith and Quran, it does not say that women should wear hijab to avoid getting raped. The reason for hijab is not to help men “lower their gaze” because men aren’t supposed to stare at women anyway!
You basically justified rape!
hijab shaming…it’s a scarf not hijab
I am a hijabi and I believe through my own experience and struggles that wearing is a personal choice. No one should be forced to wear hijab just like no one should for someone to remove it . I have two of my best friends who do not wear hijab and I consider them some of the best people and roles models . We accept , respect and love each other . As much as there are hijabis who judge non hijabis , you have to be fair and talk about non hijabis who think that because you wear all hijab u have to be perfect and just wait for you to trip and fall to justify themselves for not wearing hijab . You don’t have to be perfect but wearing hijab is showing that you strive in the path of allah . I am not an example and I don’t want this huge responsibility . Our beloved Prophet his wives and the companions are the examples to follow . So stop watching me and relishing the moments when I make mistakes . I am not responsible for you not wearing hijab .
Well I know no one might see this but I really want to talk about this I’m a non hijabi and I’ve been trying to understand why do we wear it and why we should take this huge step in our lifes and a hard discussion just not to get raped and or men don’t get attracted to us…
Women have to go through all this just because men don’t get attracted to you and does it mean if I’m not wearing a headscarf then I’m a whore or I want men to look at me.
Hijab is beautiful but looking around me and seeing all these people I know judging me telling my parents I’m a disgrace to the family and on the other side looking at their ‘covered’ daughters who are way worse than me is so disgusting.
After all I hope god will guide us all to the right path and keep peace and love in our hearts. ❤️