Although I’m not politically involved, recent events have had some of my close friends and me in a tiff. Before the whole Trump fiasco, women’s rights have always been under attack and governed by individuals who have never been cat-called to the point of annoyance, followed around in a club because they wouldn’t provide them digits, never had cramps that twisted their insides so badly that they basically died, or had a full-on human being claw its way out of their va-jay-jay.
Men making certain decisions for women is like my Black, Muslim ass applying for the Pope’s position in the Vatican.
It ain’t gonna work.
Now, if I were a rich and powerful douchebag with no decency, I could apply, get the job, and slowly but surely begin to fuck stuff up. But then as a human being, why would I want to create life issues for another sect of people?
It’s a man’s world. *Ahem* Sorry. It’s a White man’s world. Nope. It’s the world of the rich White man who’s straight and Christian. I don’t know about you, but I definitely don’t want someone like that making decisions about my reproductive health.
We are in dire need of a more diverse panel. Sorry, not sorry.
And this isn’t a “bash White people” post. This is a bash-all-men-and-women-who-support-unequal-systems-put-in-place-by-the-powers-that-be post.
Feminism. The word most men cringe when they hear. I’ve gotten soooo much bullshit for saying I’m a feminist, especially because I’m Muslim. That makes it three times worse.
I was on a date with this African guy. Topic: Dynamics between men and women. I like a good debate once in a while.
“You sound like a feminist,” he said.
“I am a feminist,” I replied.
His brows raised. But he hadn’t said anything else.
After a few seconds of silence. I countered, “I’m a humanist.”
He offered a sigh of relief. “That’s a better answer.”
WTF. Needless to say, he got dumped.
I was chatting with this White non-Muslim guy. “That’s great that you’re Muslim and a feminist. It’s just so sad how they oppress their women.”
After I schooled him about how “men” in general oppress women, he got dropped like a hot sack of shit.
The last straw was another guy who said, “I mean, I get feminism, but they just hate men and they take stuff too far, ya know?”
No, I don’t know. BYEEEEEE!
Not only do non-Muslims have stigmas attached to feminism, but Muslims do as well. Bad. I’ve heard Muslim men and women say that feminism isn’t Islamic. Pump the breaks. Equality isn’t Islam? Oppression isn’t spoken about as something that is wrong in Islam?
Feminism doesn’t mean hatred of men. Feminism isn’t just for lesbians. Feminism doesn’t only equate to showing your tits, growing your underarm hair, or being White. Of course, there are extreme feminists out there who may or may not fit those above stereotypes, but to each its own. You can be Muslim and feminist. I am. And I know others who are, too. And it doesn’t compromise my Islam; it actually makes it stronger.
Being a feminist means that you want the right to be who you want to be, whether that’s Muslim or Atheist or Jewish. It means the right to make equal pay as a man or a White woman, to have a say-so over what happens to your body, whether that’s abortion or having multiple children. It’s not about being right or wrong. Or good or evil. We have a God given right to make decisions for ourselves. That’s not too much to ask.