Sometimes, we may find ourselves feeling distant from Islam. We may feel like our life is falling apart and that we’re hopeless or that our level of faith is at a low. We feel lost, we worry no prayer is being answered and then we ask ourselves: “How can I possibly get myself through this?”
I’m here to tell you that this feeling is okay.
We’re all striving to be the best we can be. I’m still learning myself and struggling. I’ve made mistakes, I’ve lost myself a few times. It’s been quite a journey, people, and here are some things that I’ve picked up and held on to along the way through it all.
1. Allah doesn’t give up on us.
“He found you lost, and he guided you.” — (Quran 93:7)
This ayah was revealed to Prophet Muhammed (SAW) while he was in a bad state of mind, and negativity was building up inside of him. He, the Prophet himself, felt lost. This shows that it’s normal for us as human beings to have this feeling — it’s not wrong.
This ayah was revealed to give the Prophet hope, and it can do the same for us.
Allah (SWT) never gives up on us and this ayah is proof that he is always there to give us the Hidaya — guidance — we need to set us back onto the straight path.
“Tawwakul is having full trust in God — But in order to reach this level, one must hold onto hope, strive with the limbs and let go with the heart.” — Yasmin Mogahed
Sometimes the things that happen in our lives are for our best interest. We must realize that there is a reason for everything that falls upon us — every blessing, and every hardship.
A good friend told me, once you recognize that Allah (SWT) takes precedence over everything, your entire life falls into place. Subhanallah, your heart is at ease because it’s in the hands of Allah (SWT). After I recognized that, It felt like a part of me had been missing and now it had finally come back to me.
3. Patience is key.
“Seek help through patience and prayer, indeed, Allah is with the patient.” — (Quran 2:153)
Allah (SWT) doesn’t put you through anything that you can’t handle. Being patient is painful and tiring, it’s hard, but it’s always worth it in the end. Patience is bitter in taste, yet its outcomes are sweeter than honey.
Honestly, patience is giving up everything you love for the one that loves you the most — and what is more beautiful than that?
4. Keep up with prayer.
Working on your salah is the most important key to a happy life. Make dua constantly, pray Istikhara and even set alarms to keep up with the daily prayer timings.
Prayer’s purpose is to keep ourselves close to Allah (SWT). We can’t sit back and expect everything to be handed to us. It’s a two-way street, and you must maintain a relationship with Allah (SWT) and pray often.
Your soul needs prayer like your lungs need air.
5. Show gratitude.
“You can be sitting there, drinking your coffee while your life falls down around you, with a smile on you. Your world can fall apart but you can decide too see the beauty in the destruction.”
It can seem tough but stop and think about it; you woke up this morning, you’re alive and Allah (SWT) has given you another day. Allah has stayed with you through it all and has given you chances.
Every problem you’ve faced, hardship you’ve overcome, he’s put you through it all to do nothing but teach you and bring you toward good.
No matter how hard things may seem, always say Alhamdulillah — thank God. Make it a habit to say it at every ease and hardship.
“And remember when your Lord proclaimed, “If you are grateful, I will surely increase you in favor.” (Quran 14:7)
I promise, you will find peace. Give yourself time to heal.
In the future, when you feel nothing but ease and tell yourself, “I made it through it all,” it is one of the greatest feelings in the world. I don’t think anything compares to the feeling of finding yourself again.
Let’s pray we all do.
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