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Taking Advantage of Dhul Hijjah Even If You’re Not on Hajj

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  • A.

    On a somewhat light note – one of the reasons my Amma (mom) doesn’t like going to Ei’d Salah (when it’s often the main thing I look forward to), is because of the fashion show and noise (from all the talking after salah) on the sister’s side. She can’t hear the khutbah, so all the formality and pleasure is lost for her, sadly.

    Jazak’Allahu Khairan for the reminder about these 10 days.

    • Tahira Ayub

      I completely agree with you both! On the one hand, I love getting the chance to dress up and see my friends and take tons of pictures after Salah, but on the other hand, I understand the importance of the khutbah and salah itself in relation to Eid so the chatter of all the aunties has been a source of annoyance for me waaay too many times! I guess the best way to deal with it is just stay put after salah ends and try to serve as an examples to others around you to listen to The khutbah (while throwing some subtle shade if an auntie is particularly loud)! JazakAllah Khair! – Tahira A.

      • A.

        Thanks for the reply. Without sounding like a back-biter, my mom said that a particular segment of our Muslim community are loud and as we went to a different salah this time that had doughnuts outside, these young girls went and brought food sat in a circle and chatted during the khutbah. I know complaining workout action is fruitless. I wish we could gather some of the elder sisters and discuss the issues. Etiquette of E’id or something. Just like there are rooms for little ones to run around at weddings or other community events, I think something similar would be useful. Though in this case, if the girls wanted to chat and eat, there was plenty of room outside. Or maybe the sisters should be able to move closer up behind us guys after salah is over.

        • Tahira Ayub

          I completely understand! There’s a lot of people I wish I could go up to and just shush but unfortunately, acting upon anger or annoyance is never worthwhile or helpful! The fact that in your scenerio the issue seems to be youth girls actually gives you a really interesting advantage! I usually have an issue with aunties who can’t be bothered to change or be told their wrong, but girls are definitely more flexible. I really do think that a group with dialogue would be extremely beneficial! In my community, I started a girl’s youth program about two years ago and alhumdulillah I’ve seen these girls grow up and become so much more involved, intuitive and respectful in every setting masha’Allah! I think that when we reach out to the youth and begin teaching them what’s right and wrong through general discussions, fun activies, and get togethers where is doesn’t feel like they’re being lectured, they are so much more interested and likley to listen and be helpful. I know starting a group is not easy at all, and maybe that’s not something you’d be interested in, but just reaching out to these girls even on an individual basis and creating a relationship with them could be beneficial in ways you might not expect! Sometimes they don’t have anyone else in their life to tell them when things are wrong and you have the chance to be that person they look up to! :)

  • Rahila Akter

    It’s said that those those fast on the 9th day of Dul hijja, their sin will be forgiven for 2 years . What about the girls who has personal problems? Those who can’t fast ? What should they do ?

    • Tahira Ayub

      Salam! Awesome question – I believe the hadith says its for a single year of forgiveness – which is still a huge opportunity for us Alhumdulillah! I was actually in the samee boat as you this year and was unable to fast or pray on the day of Arafat. What we can do in this situation is the same as what we can do during ramadan – make excessive du’a, dhikr and do good deeds while staying away from temptations such as music, movies, etc. :) I hope this helps!

      • Rahila Akter

        Walaikumasalam. Thank you so much :)

        • Tahira Ayub

          you’re very welcome!