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The Impact of Peer Pressure on Muslim Girls in the West

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  • Munna

    Seems that the Muslims in general are still confused about the best course to follow when they migrate to different countries. First of all, it’s not at all obligatory to follow Arabian way of dressing in order to be called Muslim. You’re just following a religion that originated from Arabia but, you’re not slaves of Arabia to follow their dress-code. Why this characteristic is intermingled with Muslim identity is hard to follow. If you’re too much in love with the Arabic style of dressing then you better remain confined to so-called Muslim countries but, you’re in for trouble if you’re going to live all your life in another country where dress-codes are different. It isn’t the question of hurting your Muslim identity, it’s just a question of getting on with the country customs or manner of living. You wanna create boundaries due to your religious belief then be prepared to be called this or that sort of crazy.

    • Hira

      Your logic is quite illogical because dressing modestly isn’t defined by “dressing Arab” as you imply. Women can dress modestly in the west without wearing their cultural dress. I’m not Arab and I still choose to dress in American clothing that I feel is modest according to my own standards. Everyone has a right to determine that for themselves and God is the ultimate Judge as only He knows what’s in a person’s heart. The message is for young girls to not give up on Islam just because of peer pressure, or to stop practicing what modesty means for them just to fit in.

      • Munna

        You said that you got the right to wear anything that you feel modest according to your own standards but you also have to see the norms of the society in which you live in. You can’t impose your own standards on others.
        Regarding who is the ultimate judge, it is only your perception, there’s no ultimate judge or whatever, it’s your delusion. Society reacts to your way of life, living, dressing, ethics, morals and what not. Don’t hide under the impression that they don’t count for anything.
        Regarding giving up Islam or any other religion, no where I said that, it’s only your imagination at work.
        Regarding modesty in Islam, I don’t think that there is any stricture or Surah, Ayat, Hadis in Islam making mandatory for women in dressing up their whole bodies in black cloth like some black buffaloes to hide their modesty or protect it from the gaze of evil men. Only there may be instructions on modestly dressing but it also depends on society to society. If you’re thinking that dressing under the garb like that of black buffalo would make you pious and full of modesty then it’s your insecure imagination at work, not the better sense.

        • Hira

          Wow..I really want to respond to the fact that you are comparing a woman dressed in a black colored abaya or burqa to a “black buffalo” but I’m going to refrain from doing so because the ignorance in your comparison speaks for itself.

          • Munna

            Thanks for calling me ignorant. You can continue your blindness, since it’s the religion that has made a fool of you. You see things in your imagination while just ignoring the plain view. Nobody is going to respect a lady just because she’s covered from head to toe in black cloth, they’re more likely to call her a black buffalo rather than calling her anything pious. And also btw…they don’t got any time to listen to your explanations regarding making the body of a lady a shameful handicap for her and thus bringing on the punishment of covering her whole body to save herself. Its only the miracle of religion that inflicts such boon to the mentality of such enlightened ones as yourself.

          • garmin electra

            You can do whatever you want munna.. you can drink, fornicate, get high, wear shorts.. whatever you want, the choice is yours really. But, when you die, which we all have to face, just be prepared to answer for it. Those who sell their religion, unfortunately fall into the deluded category who got blinded by the bright lights, tall buildings and careers, for these things don’t come with you to the grave; just look at the king of Saudi.. left a fortune. So, remember to always say to yourself, will I be able to answer to allah for the actions I take.. It’s your life, its your test, it’s your choice.. we don’t answer for you, nor would you for us: Accountability!

          • Munna

            There’s no Allah, God or life after death. Since when you were born you don’t have any recollection of the past life, the same can be said about your after life. Come out of ignorance and don’t make illusions to intoxicate you. We shed too much time on creating this or that intoxication.
            Mark my words, Religion, Politics, Ideologies, Patriotism and so on so forth are just the creation of man. If you indulge in obsessive amount of it, you will have to pay the price. There’re too many things in life which needs justifications and logic to prove, try to shed some light on them not only for yourself but for others too.
            Every philosophy or ideology have a life of its own. It’s better to improve the things for the future so that the thinking survive but it doesn’t make sense if you want to cling on to the dying philosophies with rigid connotations.

          • garmin electra

            “There’s no Allah, God or life after death. Since when you were born you don’t have any recollection of the past life, the same can be said about your after life”

            And you know this for a fact ?

          • Munna

            For me personally, it a fact, maybe you have recollections of your past life and after life too. Maybe, you got super-delusions of super-natural powers but, we’re just born from dust (nowhere) to end into another dust (nothing). Maybe, you’re born God or Allah or whatever, but I’m convinced that I’m not God and I don’t blame anyone for that.

          • Lokho

            Why the Hell are you even on this site then.

          • Munna

            Commenting is my hobby and anything that interest me, I do put forward my views. There’s no need to feel frustrated or angry at others comment.

    • sk

      Arab dress does not = Muslim dress. Muslim dress = modern dress for both men and women. Men cover knee to navel. Women hair and loose fitting clothing. Both regardless of which type of clothing they dress in: American, Indian, Arab, Chinese whatever. Many women find the burqa easy to put on similar to a jacket or sweater so they can wear whatever inside and go about the world. Need I say more? But I bet you already knew that and just came to make a hateful comment instead about black buffaloes.

      • Munna

        You don’t have the intelligence to separate reason/hate. You just term everything that’s against into hate speech. I wanted Muslim women to enter every field of work, education, fashion and society. Hiding themselves behind black dresses doesn’t make them any useful but puts a tag on some other aspect as far as their mental make-up and norms for reasoning goes….hence, I reject your version of judgement terming my comment as hateful.

  • sk

    I’m still confused to what point Munna was trying to make before, but anyway I appreciate your response to the original article. I think we are trying too hard thesedays to modernize Islam, to make everything okay and still keep our faith. Except the balance keeps tipping further and further away from the truth of what we as Muslims should try to follow. I am as no one else is perfect either, but I found the original article a little misleading or legitimizing of practices which take us away from our faith. I think the best way to deal with these types of situations is how my father once said to a bunch of the girls in my family,”If you’re not doing it then that’s between you and Allah, but don’t say that it’s okay to not do it because that just makes it worse.” May Allah make it easy for all us Muslimah to find the correct path, be strong and successful in this life and the hereafter. Ameen.